Relationship status, involved but not committed.

Gone are the days of janam janam Ka pyar, undying love and soul mates till eternity.

Relationships today have become very frivolous, be it amongst families, friends or more. Recently a friend of mine (in today's Facebook age, every one you know is a "friend" irrelevant of everything else.)


So like I was saying, a friend of mine, whom I know from my yoga classes, an 18 yer old, pretty girl from a good family, recently got engaged.

No there's nothing wrong in getting engaged, but then, she was seeing someone else,

 she was in a long distance relationship, which I found out was a relationship of great understanding, understanding that there would be no strings attached, no commitments.

She was with this guy who is settled outside India, so they used to meet up as and when circumstances allowed them, she used to go to a city which was convenient for him when he was in the country, and "meet up, catch up and a enjoy each other's company", whatever that means is upon your interpretation.

Throughout the period that they were together, maybe around a yer or so, both knew the minute they found someone more suitable more "right", the other person would bolt faster than the speed of light.

And thats what happened, she met a righter Mr. Right, and decided to tie the knot. But how does she know he's more right than the older Mr. Right?

In our urge to live better, to live luxuriously, somewhere we have left our emotions and feelings in the old suitcase. Even friendships these days is such a light hearted matter, you're my friend if you say good things about me, compliment me, but if you show me the mirror, I'll crack it.

Relationships are also equally fragile, we all know there are lots of fishes around, so if one dsnt suit you try some other. Divorces are so common these days because of the same reasons.

They say our lives are more stressful, more tensed, but why did this happen?
When we have the best technologies, best gadgets machines to help us work more smoothly, easily, and more efficiently, why are we becoming like machines.

Who is eating away our emotions? Our feelings?
Read a nice quote some time back, all things that make us happy and are good for us are not things. But...

Happy Holi

Happy Holi friends, hope the colors of life complete your world just as you desire. Sometimes we dont know what we want, at those moments trust God.
Have fun, enjoy but be safe. New page, old friends, deadly combination, see you all at my new  place.

And ofcourse, a very happy INTERNATIONAL women's day to all my female friends. I was talking to friend of mine, asking her why we celebrate women's day specifically, and never a man's day, just cause its a man's world and we just have these few scattered mother's day, sister's day and national international women's days, and she tells me, Pooja, its not like that, we celebrate things that DESERVE to be celebrated, maybe the men folk dont deserve it. But then  I was like there are lots of men whom I think do deserve to be celebrated and looked upon on. But then on closer inspection I realized its nothing like it, the card manufactures know which side their butters their breads. So its more about the women in your life!! Enjoy...celebrate and dont think too much about it, after all its much ado abt nothing!! Aint it?

Ek main aur ekK tu, with an extra K

Ek Mein aur ek tu, no not you and me, but the movie, staring Imran Khan and Kareena Kapoor. I know it's been a long time since the movie released but ever since I saw the movie it's been in my head. It was a new awakening, I new era in Hindi cinema, no not technologically (I'm no judge on that), but content wise and the social message it brought across was a good one. It finally murdered, or has started the slow killing or the age old "ek ladka aur ek Ladki kabhi dost nahi ban sakte", a girl and a boy can never be JUST FRIENDS.  Yeah I know people like you and me were always aware of these things but in rural and even some parts of urban India are still under the influence of our conventional thinking and mind set.  Why go so far, even in our societies, we see people being labeled cause they share a house, a vehicle or maybe just spend some nice time together with someone from the opposite sex, siddha siddha character dhilla ho jata hai! Just cause a girl and boy sleep on the same bed does not imply that they are sleeping with each other.  Just cause a guy likes a girl she does not have to tie a rakhi to him, nor does she need to shun him or avoid him, most boys get of their infatuations or crushes and even if it's love they can take rejections.  A guy and a girl can still be friends, platonic relationships do exits.  Friends can call each other darlings and sweethearts and still not be in a physical relationship. It's possible. Just cause a girl hugs or kisses her guy friend he does not become her boyfriend and she does not become a slut! Times have really changed. Today, a guy-guy , or even a girl-girl relationship is more suspicious than that of a ladka-ladki, (boy-girl).  Times have changed and we need to change things too. The age old trend of finishing off all love stories, the good the bad or the ugly, with a marriage, which are equally worse, has finally begun to end.  As we see in real life, very few love stories, or affairs end up in marriages and even lesser are happily ever after, it happens only in fairy tales and out Hindi movies. But finally a fresh breeze of air I felt. Its been an unsaid rule that the leading couple has to be married off in the end, or killed like in Qayamat Se Qayamat tak, or Sathiya, but they for sure could not be left untied. Hence amongst all the drama, dialogues and dhishum dhishum, the end result was always "just married, happily forever." This trend was worse in cases of rape victims, if a female was raped also, the right to do was to force the bad man to marry her, and so she could be raped for the rest of her life without any consequences on the husband. It boils my temper when I see such cases, what could be worse for the girl? You are rewarding him and instead giving her a death sentence.  Our movies are not just a source of entertainment, they are not just a mirror of our society, many a times, they are also reference points in mane places. Actors and actresses are considered Gods and temples have been created for them. The general public looks upon then and their practices on screen are like lessons to live for most of our rural public. We have statutory warnings for smoking, violent scenes or even sexual content, but there is nothing telling the public that this is a movie, it's fiction and it should not be followed in real life. People look upon the society through movies and television shows now a days, best example is that of the saas-bahu relationship, it was never as strained as it is now, nor was it so notably a negative relationship, if you say something good or nice about your own mother in law or vice versa, it's almost a crime! But this was not there per-saas-bahu sagas, it's only after all these series that the terms have become so tainted.  So all in all, I loved the efforts of the Ek Main Ek Tu 's team, kudos for putting up the urban youths point of view, for telling people not to judge someone on the sex of their friends, just be and let others also be. Cheers to a new bollywood!!!